A lot of trauma work or any healing work for that matter seems to be to release stuck/burried emotions in order to be able to feel joy and love and all sorts of wonderful things.
So I stopped when I stumbled upon this quote on Instagram ( I lost the link – sorry) today and it made me think how caught up we usually are with things like work and school and things society teaches us are important. Do I really stop and think about what fills my cup and do that? Do I practice my mindset with which I walk through life? Most of the time I feel like we forget the why or that no job will bring me true love and joy if I am not able to feel grateful for what I have. Job or no job will tell nothing about whats in ‘my cup’.
And now comes the hard part. Life shakes me and my cup spills and I cant ignore the anger and bitterness and grief and jealousy that spills out but I desperately try to ignore it, blame ‘the person’ that ran into me for making me feel this way. What do I do now? Its so easily said ‘be grateful for what you have. Live out of a feeling of love’ but what about all that fear and anger that I have? Suppressing that and buttering love over it wont help but increase anxiety because those emotions what to be felt and heard. So how do you empty that cup? I’m not so sure that a cup is the right picture for the flow of energy that life is ideally.
But you empty your cup by allowing those feelings to be, by being super duper brave and facing the unknown and unfelt. By writing, walking, therapy, dancing, time spend in nature, meditation, following your intuition, taking care of our body through good food and by taking time. As Oprah says it best “the most valuable thing you can give yourself is time.” It takes courage to face your deepest fear and things you have been telling yourself. There are no two ways about it. And some days thats just too daunting. Its so easily said ‘lets work today towards gratefulness and love and forgiveness’ but there is nothing harder than that. It is like global peacemaking only within yourself – just as hard, complicated and feels almost as impossible as eliminating wars.
So if your cup spilled today for the simplest of reason and you saw your anger and frustration or you even let someone else pour their anger into your cup – pour it out! Dont try to sugar coat it but fully feel it – be super duper angry and then release it! However that works best for you but do it! And once its empty take care of it and don’t let it near any useless or harmful energy! Take care of it like you would take care of your 5 year old child and send it to bed early 😉